April 11, News/Comments, By Mark C. Orgu
LAGOS-It was a sad news for lovers of Christian Music to hear of the untimely death of Mrs. Osinachi Nwachukwu, whose death occurred last week Friday, as news filtered the air that she died of cancer of the throat, a lie from the pit of hell as described by her sisters and her colleagues. Meanwhile, Vangard Newspaper was quoted as saying that the Osinachi’s elder sister had debunked such fake news about her death.
“Elder sister of the late gospel music artiste who died last week on alleged cancer of the throat, Osinachi Nwachukwu, weekend, said her sister died as a result of cluster of blood in the chest from the kicking she allegedly got from her husband, Mr Peter Nwachukwu. Ms. Favour Made, who is the elder sister to the late Osinachi, also alleged that her sister was treated badly by her husband before her untimely death.”
The late OsinachiMeanwhile, in a chat with Afrikanwatch Network in the early hour of Monday morning (Today) with a University of Lagos lecturer and marriage Counselor in the Distance Learning Institute (DLI) of the University, lecturing in the department of Guidance and Counselling, Dr. (Mrs) Obiageli Modebelu, on the issue and why marriages continue to witness violence especially against women, recalling how Mr. Nwachukwu ( Osinachi’s husband) violently as alleged beats the late wife, a gospel artist, till the latest beating that resulted to her sudden death in an undisclosed hospital at Abuja.
Dr. Modebelu however said that, violence in marriages are in both ways, but described it as a diabolic act that must be stopped outrightly. “Domestic Violence cuts across both gender. It is an evil which threatens human mental sanity and life in general. It should be totally frowned at. The abused person should also speak out and seek help. This is because, immediately life is lost, it cannot be gained back. We should know that marriage is not a ticket to heaven. It is better to live a single and happy life than to merely exist in an abusive relationship”
Speaking from the religious angle, on why religion has not really addressed the situation of divorce when violent begin to emanate, she said that ignorance and lack of information has always put most marriages in danger and the religious wrong approach to it makes thing worst. “I know that the Christian religion preaches one man-one wife and also indissolubility of marriage. However, I speak from my own religion ( Catholic) stand on this. The church allows separation in cases of threat to life and in extreme cases, there are tribunals that sit to examine whether such a marriage should continue or should be dissolved. The thing is that many people lack information and knowledge on how to approach issues like domestic violence. And that is the major problem. This is why I said earlier that the abused person should seek help. Then he or she will be directed appropriately on where to get lasting solutions. No religious organization supports abuse or violence. Though they preach that marriage should last till death do … part, however, they do not condone violence”
Preferring solution on how to live a good and happy married life, the University and Marriage advocate, noted that, there must be committed to accepting each other shortcomings and the reality that comes in married life.
“It takes two to tango. The two people involved must be committed to make it work. Each day should be seen as an opportunity to make your marriage better. No two marriages are the same. How we differ affects every aspect of our lives including marriage. There is no ready- made or quick-fix solutions to issues in marriage, however few things are important love, trust, compromise, altruism, and ability to constantly forgive your spouse no matter what he or she might have done to you”
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